A Journey of Transformation: How Faith Led a Former Transgender Man to Embrace Traditional Motherhood

A Journey of Transformation: How Faith Led a Former Transgender Man to Embrace Traditional Motherhood

Surrounded by a variety of baby gear in her living room, Lex Renick, a former transgender man, now embraces her identity as a woman and a traditional mother. With the soft backdrop of a newborn’s cries, she reflects on her profound change after reconnecting with Christ.

Renick described her spiritual awakening that occurred after 14 years of living as a man. Her pivotal moment unfolded at a dock in the picturesque town of Big Bear, where she fell to her knees and surrendered her life to God. She shared, “I remember falling on my face at a dock in our small town in Big Bear, where I ended up giving my life to the Lord in the sense of finally saying, ‘I trust you with all of it.’” This profound moment sparked her transformative journey.

Reflecting on her childhood, Renick expressed a longing for acceptance. She said, “I just wish that I had someone to lovingly come alongside me and say, ‘hey, it’s OK if you’re a tomboy.'” She reminisced about her youth, where her interests in hiking and playing in the mud were labeled as merely tomboyish. Unfortunately, today’s societal expectations have changed; they often discourage traditional expressions of gender identity. “But now we live in a world where there are no tomboys anymore. That’s a very scary place to be because children are so vulnerable, and we need to protect them,” Renick emphasized.

Renick began identifying as male at the age of 13. The supportive environment she encountered from peers and school staff kept her parents unaware of her struggles. Now a mother of two and a prominent figure on Instagram with over 100,000 followers, she advocates for the importance of allowing children to explore their identities without constraints.

“If you’re a boy who loves to sing, dance, or excel in drama, that doesn’t mean you have to belong to any community. God equips each of us with unique gifts and talents. When we try to force kids into boxes, it breeds confusion. I encourage them to discover their true selves and seek God’s guidance through their discomfort,” she highlighted.

After a pivotal moment where her parents blocked her from beginning hormone treatment before she turned 18, Renick expressed gratitude to her father for delaying this decision. She is thankful for the opportunity to choose for herself when she was ready. This decision ultimately contributed to her current sense of identity.

“I can’t breastfeed,” Renick explained, revealing the physical consequences of her past decisions, including a top surgery that cost her $10,000. She reflected on these choices by asserting, “I did all this because I believed the lie of the world that I had to do all these things.” This acknowledgment of regret serves as a warning against hasty decisions influenced by societal pressures.

As a native of Southern California, Renick grew up in a family dedicated to ministry. Yet she witnessed substance abuse issues within her household, which she believes created an opening for confusion and influence from negative ideologies. “The alcohol and pill abuse that I observed behind closed doors planted seeds for the enemy to come in and cause confusion,” she noted.

Renick also reminisced about the challenges she faced from the Christian community when seeking support during her struggles. Instead of finding acceptance, she sometimes encountered rejection. This led her to connect with the queer community, which initially offered her affirmation but ultimately directed her down a path that strayed away from her faith.

“I ended up running to this loving queer community that accepted me. But living authentically in that space led me away from my true self. It was only through Jesus that I found the real solution, the genuine love that sustained me,” she stated.

After her conversion, Lex Renick felt a reinvigorated sense of purpose. She met her husband, Nic, whose love and support contributed to her renewed relationship with Jesus. Initially identifying as a “gay trans couple,” the dynamics of Renick’s relationship shifted as she embraced her identity as a woman. Her husband had no intention of marrying a woman, but their bond deepened through faith.

As parents, Renick and her husband recognize the importance of initiating important conversations with their children. “Don’t let the world dictate these conversations. The world will convey messages that contradict God’s Word,” she asserted. She emphasized the necessity of addressing difficult discussions with love and biblical truth, reinforcing that every individual is created for a divine purpose without restrictions.

With the goal of supporting other families, Renick and Nic authored a children’s book aimed at bridging the gap in these discussions. Titled “Jesus, My Gender, And His Perfect Love: God Made Me As I Am Meant To Be,” the book encourages parents to foster conversations about identity from an early age, potentially changing the course of many lives, including Renick’s.

Renick extends a message of encouragement to anyone grappling with their identity. “You are deeply loved by the Lord. God did not make a mistake. You were created for such a time as this. He has a plan and purpose for your life, and the best is yet to come,” she concluded. This message resonates with many who may feel lost or misunderstood in today’s complex world.